There is no better way to Honor the memory of a loved one by giving your grief a voice.
In the midst of my various experiences with grief, I have found a tool that has helped to keep me anchored and grounded through some of my darkest moments. I may not be through my grieving process, but I do believe that this tool will help me to get through it.
Writing about my grief, about loved ones, as given me a voice I didn’t think I had. It has allowed me to express in written form, thoughts that I haven’t be able to verbalize in spoken form. I finally feel like my grief has a voice.
“I must write it all out, at any cost. Writing is thinking. It is more than living, for it is being conscious of living.” ~Anne Morrow Lindbergh
I encourage others to write about their grief for the following reasons:
- It’s a great outlet for emotional
- Your words may be helpful to others experiencing grief
- It honors the memory of our loved ones
- Putting your story and feelings down in black-and-white helps you put things in greater perspective and enables you to work through your feelings better
By no means is this an exhaustive list, or will each of the benefits outlined above be experienced by everyone, but these are the positive outcomes I have had so far. But isn’t a quick fix through the grieving process; it is a coping mechanism. Some find it therapeutic, cathartic.
Journaling my feelings have helped to keep me focused. It allows me to maintain some semblance of sanity and it helps me to understand my feelings better. Writing has helped me to work cope with the pain and suffering caused by my grief. It has given me a better understanding of myself, and it has created a greater sense of self-awareness.
Has writing my thoughts and feelings resolved all of my issues? NO, it hasn’t. Has it brought me to the end of the grieving process? It most certainly has not. I still experience moments of sadness and sorrow. What journaling has done for me is given me a starting point. I have gained a great deal of comfort and healing through my writing. It has given me things to think about. I believe it has given me a new level of understanding and has become the catalyst for my transformation.
There are no steadfast rules to journaling. It’s really about expressing your thoughts and feelings in written form. It doesn’t have to be perfect, and it doesn’t have to make sense to anyone but you. Sharing your thoughts isn’t a prerequisite. You can keep them as private as you want or share as much as you’d like. The first focus should be on how it helps you cope with your grief. You’ll know when you’re ready to share your story with others.
I found this posted on a friend’s wall and thought it so beautiful. I copied and pasted it here. I hope you can see the meaning and feel the beauty inside when you think of someone you have lost.
“The rule that you should move on and stop talking about your lost loved ones is a complete lie! I shall never stop talking about my baby girl Ashley Nicole Beard♡
“Give sorrow words; the grief that does not speak knits up the o-er wrought heart and bids it breaks.” ~ William Shakespeare
I’m not a psychologist. I’m a writer, so you must know by now that I am having a love affair with words. I know how to make them sharp and pointy. I know how to make them sing like music. And most importantly, I know that they keep me connected to everything beautiful in this world, and the next.
Speaking of your loved one can keep their presence with you from far across the boundaries of the point where life meets death. It is a way to honor them, and a way to honor your feelings. It keeps their love alive in you. It extends the meaning of their life into the world in powerful and meaningful ways. It gives them back a voice in a world hell-bent on forgetting.
It’s okay to speak of them, to them, and even for them when there is good that can be done by you because they have lived. What better way to honor a life than to extend this love to others? written by Anna Lamont
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Can one master all of these questions? I’m unsure, but I’m aware that being honest with oneself and asking questions in critical moments is a good step in living life from the inside out.
I’ll return with much more insightful content. Until then, please feel free to contact me with any advice, criticism, feedback at email@example.com or via Twitter at @jamh123. I gladly welcome it!
May you always find peace.
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